Interpersonal skills are the life skills we use every day to communicate and interact with other people, individually and in groups.
 
Interpersonal skills include not only how we communicate with others, but also our confidence, and our ability to listen and understand. Problem solving, decision making and personal stress management are also considered interpersonal skills.

People with strong interpersonal skills are usually more successful in both their professional and personal lives. They are perceived us as more calm, confident and charismatic, qualities that are often endearing or appealing to others. Being more aware of your interpersonal skills can help you improve and develop them. We provide an extensive library of articles to help you learn about and improve your interpersonal skills.

Although India’s young demographic profile and a huge talent pool are contributing to the current economic boom, the specter of youth ‘un-employability’ looms larger than life. Youth employability is a bigger crisis than unemployment itself, says the India Labour Report 2007. The myth of mere graduation is dying out with the growing industry demand for employable skill sets. Even the government has earmarked Rs 15,000 crore this fiscal, for employable skill building among the nation’s youth, which is the only way forward to sustain and enhance economic growth.

Of the total unemployed youth population of 232 million, a mere two per cent enter the services job market in the organized sector. A McKinsey study reports that only a quarter of all engineers, 15 per cent finance professionals and only 10 per cent of graduates can be employed for general positions. In such a scenario, the total addressable market for employable skills training in India has grown to a whopping $3-4 billion business, registering a ten-fold growth from just $420 million, four years ago.

“The Education market in India is around $40 billion and a large percentage of it, around $36 billion, goes into structured education, the rest of the $3-4 billion constitutes the total addressable market for employable skills training” pointed out Karthik K.S., CEO of 24x7 Learning Solutions Pvt. Ltd, an e-learning implementation company. “For every 5 hires, there are 250 near-hires, which directly impacts the employee demand supply equation” he said.

According to Mr. Venkat Subramanian, founder and MD of Sri Guru Shishya Academy (SGSA), “With over 300 universities and 15,600 colleges churning out 2.5 million graduates each year, India trails behind only the US and recently China, in the volume of employable graduates.”. There is a vast market for employable skills training in Tier II and Tier III towns as well.

Capitalising on this demand, Soft skill Bhilai is targeting youth from semi-urban and rural areas. “We train engineering and non-engineering students in business English, behavioural characteristics like building a positive attitude, process and domain orientation.”

Soft skills for all 21st Century Professionals

Experts say there are several soft skills that are required in this fast changing global scenario. Some of them include:

I. Interpersonal skills

ii. Team spirit

iii. Social grace

iv. Business etiquette

v. Negotiation skills

vi. Behavioural traits such as attitude, motivation and time management

Do you have these? If your answer is yes, it is good for you.

But if your answer is no, then you know it is time to approach us – info.softskill@gmail.com

Important personality traits that a candidate should possess to do well at a Group Discussion are

1. Team Player

2. Reasoning Ability

3. Leadership

4. Flexibility

5. Assertiveness

6. Initiative

7. Creativity/ Out of the box thinking

8. Inspiring ability

9. Listening

10. Awareness

Do you have these? If your answer is yes, it is good for you.

But if your answer is no, then you must know that it is time to approach us – info.softskill@gmail.com

ANGER CONTROL MANAGEMENT

Anger is a powerful emotion. If it isn’t handled appropriately, it may have destructive results for both you and your loved ones. Uncontrolled anger can lead to arguments, physical fights, physical abuse, and assault & self-harm. On the other hand, well-managed anger can be a useful emotion that motivates you to make positive changes.

The physical effects:
Anger triggers the body’s ‘fight or flight’ response. Other emotions that trigger this response include fear, excitement and anxiety. The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol. The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.

Health problems
The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated metabolic changes that accompany recurrent unmanaged anger can eventually cause harm to many different systems of the body. Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include:

• Headache
• Digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
• Insomnia
• Increased anxiety
• Depression
• High blood pressure
• Skin problems, such as eczema
• Heart attack
• Stroke.

Unhelpful ways to deal with anger
Many people express their anger in inappropriate and harmful ways, including:

• Anger explosions – some people have very little control over their anger and tend to explode in rages. Raging anger may lead to physical abuse or violence. A person who doesn’t control their temper can isolate themselves from family and friends. Some people who fly into rages have low self-esteem, and use their anger as a way to manipulate others and feel powerful.
• Anger repression – some people consider that anger is an inappropriate or ‘bad’ emotion, and choose to suppress it. However, bottled anger often turns into depression and anxiety. Some people vent their bottled anger at innocent parties, such as children or pets.

Expressing anger in healthy ways
Suggestions on how to express your anger in healthy ways include:

• If you feel out of control, walk away from the situation temporarily, until you cool down.
• Recognize and accept the emotion as normal and part of life.
• Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry.
• Once you have identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies on how to remedy the situation.
• Do something physical, such as going for a run or playing sport.

Suggestions for long-term anger management
The way you typically express anger may take some time to modify. Suggestions include:

• Keep a diary of your anger outbursts, to try and understand how and why you get mad.
• Consider assertiveness training, or learning about techniques of conflict resolution.
• Learn relaxation techniques, such as meditation or yoga.
• See a counsellor or psychologist if you still feel angry about events that occurred in your past.
• Take regular exercise.

Soft skills for all 21st Century Professionals

Experts say there are several soft skills that are required in this fast changing global scenario. Some of them include:

I. Interpersonal skills

ii. Team spirit

iii. Social grace

iv. Business etiquette

v. Negotiation skills

vi. Behavioural traits such as attitude, motivation and time management

Do you have these? If your answer is yes, it is good for you.

But if your answer is no, then you know it is time to approach us – info.softskill@gmail.com

Important personality traits that a candidate should possess to do well at a Group Discussion are

1. Team Player

2. Reasoning Ability

3. Leadership

4. Flexibility

5. Assertiveness

6. Initiative

7. Creativity/ Out of the box thinking

8. Inspiring ability

9. Listening

10. Awareness

Do you have these? If your answer is yes, it is good for you.

But if your answer is no, then you must know that it is time to approach us – info.softskill@gmail.com

Solve the Mystery of Your True Self

Each and every event in our life brings with it a kind of gift just for us, provided we know how to receive it. This priceless offer isn't about ways to empower ourselves through possessions or greater position in life; it is presented to us to help free us from the stress and worry born of the false belief that we need such riches to realize the timeless value of ourselves.

What is this gift yet claimed? What power can we hope to know that can make all of life's moments golden? Don't let either the simplicity or the familiarity of the following answer keep you from realizing its unimaginable promise: perfect Love casts out fear.

Why does perfect Love cast out fear along with all of its self-compromising conditions? Because much in the same way as it is impossible for a shadow to live in the light, such a love ensures that dark divisive states such as fear, anxiety, and depression cannot dwell in its presence. Our task, should we wish to walk through life with such a fierce advocate by our side, is to awaken ourselves to the fact of its presence as a power already within us. Discovering "where" this Treasure of treasures is found -- and how to make ourselves one with it -- that's the question! Now, let's find some real answers.

We can all see that life is a mystery. What remains unseen is how to solve it. But before we can ever hope to "solve" this enigmatic puzzle that we call our life, we must have all the pieces on the table; and there is one "piece" to this puzzle most never find because this missing piece is our life itself!

Life -- this moment and every moment -- is a school for the education of the soul. At its heart is an invisible core curriculum, a kind of celestial "program" with one great purpose: to help us realize that behind each of the life-lessons that come our way dwells a divine, just, and loving Intelligence that wants us to be one with its life.

Imagine how different life would be if we understood that nothing happens to us that isn't sent our way to help us learn more about the eternal nature of Love. With such a realization we would know that whatever takes place in our life has not come as something set against our best interests, but to help us realize them!

What prohibits us from awakening to this essential relationship and realizing its power as our own? In a word: resistance. We see life through the eyes of a part of us that instantly opposes whatever challenges its idea about the meaning of life and what's "best" for us in it. This false self refuses or denies anything that threatens the flattering image it has of itself. All in all, the negative effect of our unconscious condition can be stated like this:

We have become lesson-intolerant.

Nothing that resists life can learn from it, and without higher self-discovery there is no hope of recovering our real relationship -- our oneness -- with God's life.

The following insight helps us see why our false self resists the "touch" of reality upon it: Real learning requires subordination to that which would teach us. If our teacher isn't someone or something greater than ourselves in the moment, then what have we to learn from that teacher? So, it is not we who masters a principle. It is we who must surrender to it if we wish to learn its ways -- if our wish is oneness with its mastery. Only in this way does that principle lends us the power that lives behind it so that we may embody its life. We must yield to what is above us. The amazing thing is that what lives "above" us, loves us and actually wants us know its power as our own.

Just as Christ washed the feet of his disciples, there is an eternal relationship between the greater and the lesser; but because the greater is continually giving itself to the lesser, the lesser is always made greater if it will surrender to what the greater wants to give it. Each time the lesser becomes the greater, then it understands the greater work, and will give itself again. This is Love. It never stops, because its genesis is eternal. It is our God-given right to realize this beautiful, creative Love that cannot betray its lover.

As we realize that all things come to us for the sake of freeing us to love more deeply the Love that would liberate us, true faith grows. Little by little we come to see that there is nothing that takes place in life, including whatever is "ugly" within it, that isn't part of preparing us to transcend -- to outgrow -- ourselves.

There is an order between power, principle, and practice. Before we can have relationship with power -- Peace, Beauty, Kindness, Love -- we must first become an embodiment of principle. And in order to become an embodiment of principle, we must practice it. The only way for us to know there is a world above us that would perfect us is if we will put ourselves in relationship with its powers through practicing them.

There is an integration that takes place when we practice what we love. As we work to embody these higher powers in our life, we are united with them. A marriage takes place within us that lessens the distance between that power and our purpose to be one with it. Surrendering self is how we end the separation between ourselves and that all-powerful Love for which we long. Only to the degree that we perfect our love in God do we come to realize oneness, and only God can perfect our love in Him.

Each moment of the day, no matter what comes your way, let what you remember as being true about Love always be your guide. Never let darkness, dismay -- any of the things that attend the mind -- be your guide. If you are sincere in your wish, and willing to work with practice to embrace principle, to discover what is necessary to put you in relationship -- in alignment with a higher order -- you will enter into God's life, which is the one life.

Practice this oneness. Anyone can do it. You don't need strength. You don't need wisdom. You don't need anything except for the wish to be a part of that Greater Life to which you have been called.

-- Guy Finley

Stop Believing in Your Own Weakness

It is our fear of being alone and in doubt, of wanting to feel certain that what we are doing is right, that compels us to seek the approval of others. So this tells us that the chief cause of why our lives so often wind up in the hands of others is not that they are superior or that the world is too strong for us, but that we don't want to face the uncertainty and aloneness we think we are too weak to bear. This is the real cause of all of our wrong relationships in life. We have been betrayed by a belief in our own weakness.

The conscious refusal to go along with what our weakness wants us to do to escape its uncertainty is what invokes and finally delivers real inner confidence. This new kind of strength gradually becomes the cornerstone of a true individual existence -- the life we've always wanted. The stakes are actually eternal -- but self-victory is as certain as the fact that light always triumphs over darkness.

Use the following ten key lessons to help strengthen your understanding of these vital ideas. Think about them; welcome their healing insights as "lights along the way" to true self-liberation. 

 

Special Study for Lasting Self-Possession

1. When you don't know what to do with yourself, someone will always be happy to tell you.
    
2. Why seek the approval of someone who doesn't even approve of himself?
    
3. Submissive before an angry person is like asking a militant wolf for its approval.
    
4. The more approval you get, the more you have to have.
    
5. Keeping any person or circumstance in your life that demands you surrender your right to be a whole and happy human being is wrong for everyone involved.
    
6. When you are out standing in a storm, don't blame the weather.
    
7. Real strength always follows uncovering one of the roots of weakness.
    
8. Don't seek yourself. Dare to be yourself.
    
9. If you were really doing the right thing with your life, you wouldn't need anyone to tell you that you were.
    
10. Permitting your life to be taken over by another person is like letting the waiter eat your dinner. (Vernon Howard)

No human being has any authority over you. Your life belongs to you and to you alone. No scowling face or irritated manner, no challenging posture or threatening tone, has any power to make you feel nervous or anxious, frightened or angry. Your true nature answers to no one. This is a fact, and anyone who is tired of letting someone else tell them how to feel can use this self-liberating principle to win true and lasting independence.

POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Why is it important to build a positive attitude for yourself?

You can be an extrovert or even an introvert. You may have the whole world in the list of your friends or you may have very few, loyal friends. However, it is not the type of the person you are that distinguishes you and makes you an individual entity in the thick crowd but it is your attitude that you carry which creates a difference between you and some other person. Your attitude will help other people determine the sort of person you actually are and what personal characteristic you posses which in turn will determine if they would like to mingle with you or not.

It is for this reason that building and developing a positive attitude is extremely important for living a life where you are famous, you are the heartthrob of everybody and most of all you gain the respect from your neighbors, colleagues, buddies and family. It is your positive attitude that will help you attract another individual towards yourself.

There are several ill effects of not keeping a positive attitude within yourself.

Firstly, a lack of positive attitude might make your personality a bitter unattractive one to other people and the people in your surrounding and it is for this reason, that developing a positive attitude is quite necessary.

Secondly, it is not only your surrounding that can get affected by the lack of positives attitude in you but it is also you yourself who might be affected by the lack of positive attitude. A lack of positive attitude might make you feel low in times of pressure, it might also create frustration, depression and inferiority complex for you.

A lack of positive attitude also leads to building of a personality, which can be better termed as a pessimist. A person may even get a cynic personality due to the lack of a positive attitude in him.