Stress Relief 23 - Mindfulness Meditation with Dr. Joe Parisi (Chapter 2...

What is Leadership

Advance Personality Development

Empowering Affirmations for Time Management

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: OVERCOMING EXAM PHOBIA

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: OVERCOMING EXAM PHOBIA:  Why some students suffer from examination phobia?  What is examination phobia?  Why some students are afraid of examination despite ...

OVERCOMING EXAM PHOBIA

 Why some students suffer from examination phobia?
 What is examination phobia?
 Why some students are afraid of examination despite putting of their good efforts?
 Why some students refuse to take examination even after a good preparation?

             These are all the questions that are to be answered carefully, to understand the problem of examination fear.

During the days of examination many parents rush to doctors, counselors and psychiatrists for treatment for their children from examination phobia. Is it all essential for the parents to do this kind of exercise? It does not, if we know something about the logic behind examination.

                 Remember the story of Michel Angelo, the greatest painter of the world who has taken the greatest risk of correcting a color mix in one corner of the church when the queen was about to visit. He was as tired as he had no energy to lift the brush. But he went on to complete the work at a great risk. For whose sake? The answer is very simple. For his own satisfaction, was the reply.

The morale of the story is that anything we do is for our personal satisfaction. In the same way the present day students should understand that they can face success and the success is the goal of their life. They should believe the Biblical quotation “ faith can move mountains”.

Solve old papers: Collect old question papers and practice them to get away from the anxiety.

Focus on the final examination: 

A month or two before exam will not suffice for right preparation for the final examination. If you have trouble of concentration or your preparation for the examination here is a mantra. Prepare a time chart. Include all subjects. Shed unwanted things. Identify most important topics.    
Discuss with your teacher, your parents about your strengths and weaknesses. Concentrate on your weaknesses by allotting more time in your time chart for the subjects of importance. At the same time strengthen your strong areas. Like Arjuna in Kurukshetra focused on Bhishma and Karna. Believe that success is in your hands.

Lower your Anxiety quotient (AQ):
Please control your AQ. Read the suggestions given below to lower your anxiety quotient.

1.  Analyze the question paper. Understand blue print of the question paper. 
2. Analyze time to be devoted to essay, short answer and objective type questions. 
3. Look at marks allotted for each question and attempt the questions, where you can score most.

‘THINK TWICE BEFORE You INK
1. Will I be penalized for wrong answers?- Ask this question for yourself  
2. Take teachers help to identify areas where you can construct marks and scoring pattern. 
3. Take a pre-test to lower your AQ. 
4. Relax well. The adrenaline rushing through your system may not take instant retrieval if you fail to relax. 
5. The simplest technique of relaxation is deep breathing. Just lean back in your chair, and relax your muscles, close your eyes and take a deep breath. 
6. Meditate in the morning will greatly help. Meditation is nothing but concentration on the  object of your choice. 
7. If you feel sleepy and tired on a particular day, go to bed. Relax for an hour. During rest do not entertain any ideas about your examination. 
8. Get your subject doubts clarified immediately by your teacher 
9. Don’t use any tablets to reduce your tension or anxiety. Take a break of five minutes between your study schedule. Enjoy the quiet night and its peacefulness. It refreshes your  mind and learners the tension and anxiety. Try to recall and write the key points learnt by you on a particular day, before you  go to bed. 

10. Often test yourself whether you can recall, what you have studied earlier.

This is essential because you may forget what you have learnt a few days ago. Remember an agriculturist, after harvesting keeps the soil fertile again by watering it. In the same way you also recall and take frequent tests to remember subject matter. Constant recall of previous knowledge keeps your brain active with old information.

Visit the Examination place in advance 
If you are taking a test in a new surroundings, visit the place and locate it earlier to exam. Check out the location. This relieves you from the anxiety on the day of examination.

Don’t Eat Junk food. Eat right food
Linkage between examination stress and right food is nothing new. There exists a strong relationship between good food and the mental state of a person. for example, anxiety leads to loss of proteins and vitamin A, C and K. It is therefore important that students taking examinations should not neglect their nutritional needs during stressful conditions. Stressful conditions have a negative impact on the behavior and learning capacity of students. Therefore, students are advised not to drink coffee, tea, cool drinks during the days of examination. The students are advised to take a balanced diet with  pulses, low fat milk, plenty of fresh vegetables and fruits, small quantities of fat and sugar to combat the examination stress. They are also advised to eat foods rich in vitamin A like fish liver oil butter milk, green leafy vegetables, carrot, ripe mango, ripe papaya etc.,

Final Tips: 
Don’t loose confidence on yourself. Develop your self-esteem. 
Do not  postpone your studies 
Prepare a time management schedule.
Prepare your strength and weaknesses record. Concentrate on your weaknesses  strengthen your strong areas. 
Aware of the blue print of the question paper-number of questions, types of questions, nature of questions and marks allotment. 
Don’t entertain the horrible fear of ‘I can’t’.  Develop positive attitude ‘I can’ and ‘I will’. 
Start learning, build confidence, and destroy fear.

“EXAM—BHOOT-is nothing but a syndrome.  It has no place in students who have self confidence. So what are you afraid of? Doubts lead to failure. So, develop a positive thinking & succeed”

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: EMBRACE YOUR HAPPY ZONE TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAMS

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: EMBRACE YOUR HAPPY ZONE TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAMS: Top of Form Living in your Happy Zone is a skill that comes from constant attention to how you feel. When you are in your Happy ...

EMBRACE YOUR HAPPY ZONE TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAMS

Top of Form

Living in your Happy Zone is a skill that comes from constant attention to how you feel. When you are in your Happy Zone you are in a vibration of creation. You are in a state of mind that of planting seeds of desires with your thoughts which you will reap in the future.

What type of seeds (thoughts) are you planting now? What type of bounty do you want to enjoy in the months ahead? If you want to enjoy a bountiful harvest then you must have fertile soil to plant your seeds, otherwise, you must have a positive mindset.

Having faith is the sun upon the seeds and how you feel is the water that waters the soil. If you keep a positive attitude of gratitude you will have the all that is needed to produce a bountiful harvest. However if you have desolate thoughts and feeling no matter how many times you try to plant your seeds, the seeds will just wither up and blow away off of the dry desolate soil. And if you plant cherry seeds no matter how much I wish for golden delicious apples you will always get cherries.

Which means you can say your intentions all day long for that which you wish for; however, if you do not believe you can have that which is wanted or if you are in a constant state of negativity it you will not be able to create and manifest your dreams.

You ALWAYS reap what you sow... ALWAYS!

So what seeds are you planting each day? What type of soil are they landing upon? Are you planting seed of your favorite types of vegetation and trees or are you carelessly and mindlessly spreading seeds of weeds, thorn bushes and thistles?

You are the master of your life. You are a co-creator of your life with God if you choose to be.

You create your life experiences by your thoughts and feelings.

When you follow your bliss and strive to be happy you will literally create and manifest the fruits of your heart and dreams. You will be able to relish and enjoy all the abundance life has to offer.

It is your beliefs and mindset which allow you to manifest your dreams or not.

WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?

What do you really want in life? What are your deepest heart’s desires?

Each goal and thought which you wish for is desired because you believe you will feel better achieving or having it. In our minds eye what we wish for ultimately is seen as happiness, peace and abundance. Dreams are so exciting and exhilarating when we truly wrap our thoughts, feelings and emotions around them we believe that they can come true. And that is the secret!

When you feel good and content for now particular reason you are living from your higher self, and when you are living from your higher self you are living in the light of Christ which enables you to create the life of your dreams.

Isn’t that comforting... to know that all you have to do is feel good and to have happiness in your heart & soul. As you practice living from your higher state of consciousness each day you will soon find that your beliefs have changed. You will have more inner-peace and comfort believing that all is well and that everything always turns out for your highest good.

You will soon come to discover just how magical it is to live in your happy zone. As you relish in the vibrant feelings of self-love and acceptance each day new day. The secret to sky-rocketing your desires is to share your happiness and joy with others--when you give joy you receive joy!

You were created to live a prosperous, joyful life filled with vast abundance of every kind, so allow the bounty to flow freely to you by being in your Happy Zone. It’s thrilling to look for tender mercies from God each day as synchronicity plays an active role in bringing about your goals and dreams to fruition. It’s truly a remarkable journey to create the life of your dreams.

Once you decide to truly live from your higher self and heed the promptings of the spirit you will experience life in an entirely new light. Embrace your Happy Zone to manifest your heart's desires. Choose to be happy by living each day in a state of love, joy and thankfulness for all things. You can create the life of your dream...if you believe!

Carol Whitaker
Life Transformation Expert & Coach
http://CarolWhitaker.com/
Author of the forthcoming book

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: TIPS FOR DESIGNING EFFECTIVE CURRICULUM-VITAE

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: TIPS FOR DESIGNING EFFECTIVE CURRICULUM-VITAE: Meaning ‘ Curriculum-Vitae ’ (C.V for short) is a brief account of your personal details, educational and professional qualifications a...

TIPS FOR DESIGNING EFFECTIVE CURRICULUM-VITAE

Meaning
‘Curriculum-Vitae’ (C.V for short) is a brief account of your personal details, educational and professional qualifications and the jobs you have held. T is a British expression. The American term for the same is ‘Resume’.
What should a C.V Do?
-    It must highlight your potential and value to an employer.
-   Provide a framework with which an interview can be designed.
-    Provide a vivid account of your achievements as a student and as a professional along with the skills you would bring to an organization, in case you are hired.
-    Although a C.V never ensures an employment, it should at least arouse the employer’s interest and get you an interview call.
Lay out of a C.V
An effective C.V should be visually appealing. That means it should appear neat and orderly. It should be clear, concise and easy to read. The way, in which the information is presented on paper, goes a long way in creating a favorable first impression.
Things to Remember
1. Make sure that you use very good quality paper for your C.V and the covering letter that goes with it.
2. Leave clear margins and be consistent while presenting your information.
3. It should be typed neatly.
4.  Be brief and to the point. Do not use ‘ten’ words where ‘five’ will do. However substance should not be sacrificed for the sake of ‘brevity’. Right attributes and achievements should be mentioned and emphasized properly. It is important to present yourself as a valuable candidate for the job advertised.
5. It is advisable to show the finished product to someone well meaning and knowledgeable. Be prepared to incorporate suggestions and changes if they enhance the quality of your C.V.


6. Never give false information.
7.  It is of utmost importance to understand the job requirements and your suitability for the post.
8. Highlight areas, where you can contribute fruitfully and effectively, rather than harping on your aspirations.
Key Components of a C.V

Given below are the main constituents of a Resume.
The Information given hereunder need not appear in the same order. Freshers and students may use the same sequence but working professionals may rearrange it to suit their preference and requirements.
1. Personal Details
•    Full Name
•    Age/Date of Birth
•    Place of Birth
•    Sex/Gender  (Male/Female)
•    Address for Correspondence
•    Telephone Numbers (Landline/Mobile)
•    Nationality (In case of overseas employment)
•    Passport Number.               –Do-
•    Driving License Number
•    Health (Unless some serious ailment, it should be stated as sound/excellent)
•    Personal Hobbies and Interests
•    Preferred Location
2. Educational and Professional Qualifications
Note: – You may mention here your professional qualifications or your occupation. For example: Computer Engineer, Law Graduate, Chartered Accountant etc.
Educational qualifications can be mentioned in the form of a table given below: -
Examination         Year    University    Percentage    Class/Div.
It may be written in the descending order, i.e. from the highest degree to the S.S.C examination or in the ascending order, i.e. beginning from the secondary education to the highest qualification acquired by you. Below secondary level education is not to be mentioned.
Any additional training, diplomas and special courses undertaken must find place after the main educational details have been given.


3. Career History
It is the most crucial information for the employer. If you are already employed or are looking for a change, you must provide information regarding the jobs you have held. Your present assignment, the work experience you have gathered, the responsibilities you have shouldered and the skills developed during the work span, all have to be mentioned here. You may have the best of qualifications but your hands on experience in the relevant field are of greater value to the employer.



POINTS TO REMEMBER
1. You should always catalog your jobs in the reverse order. Begin with your present employment or the most recent one, as it is of greatest interest to the prospective employer.
2.  Avoid the use of first person, if possible.
•    Work experience described under headings such as:
•    Period  ——–From——-To—–
•    Employer——Name of the Organization
•    Designation————–
•    Reporting To——-Name of the immediate Boss—-
And a Work Profile given as mentioned below: -
•    To assist the Departmental Head
•    Time to time maintenance of electrical machines
•    Trouble-shooting problems arising in the shop floor machines etc.
Is not only more appealing; it gives a clear idea of the person’s work and responsibilities at a quick glance.
3. The information should be so organized in this section that it gives a clear idea of your strengths to the prospective employer.
4. In case you have undertaken a number of similar jobs, enlist them under one section, if possible.
5.  Salary: – It is advisable not to mention salary at this point. At most an expected salary range can be mentioned.
6. References – These must be provided if asked by the employer. But you must seek permission from the persons whose names have been given as referees.



CONCLUSION
Suggested above is the basic structure of curriculum vitae. There can be several variants of the above-mentioned information. One may reorganize various headings, choosing to begin with very little personal details and devoting more space to the career history and educational qualifications, one’s career objectives, work ethics, specialized skills etc.
Actually for an experienced professional these elements should be highlighted and mentioned first of all, immediately after ‘The Name of the Person’. Other details can be given in the end.
If you are a fresher and have no work experience to mention, then lay emphasis on your educational qualifications or any other achievements during the school and campus life.
The idea is, to present a well-rounded picture of yourself and the valuable differences you can make to the organization, you seek to join.
RANJNA VEDHERA

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: VISION: Key to Determining and Establishing Your D...

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: VISION: Key to Determining and Establishing Your D...: We see snapshots of people living the lives we would like to emulate, items or status which we would like to receive, and the impac...

VISION: Key to Determining and Establishing Your Destiny is Simple, Yet Profound

We see snapshots of people living the lives we would like to emulate, items or status which we would like to receive, and the impact that we would like to leave after we’ve moved on here and there along our personal journeys. We then look around us and ask ourselves, “Why not us? What do they have that we don’t? How come they made it and we didn’t?”

If you take twins, who grew up in the same situation, same school, same environment but see that upon adulthood the two lead very different lives; one of fulfillment, one of disappointment, one of success, one of failure, one of entrepreneurship, one of employment; what was the difference between the two? It was vision! While the one grew up having a clear picture of the destination and ending, the other followed the Joneses and copied what society says to do. One had a direct path and the other was just a wonderer. Vision was the difference!
                                 
Sight is what is accomplished through the function of your eyes, while vision can only be made aware through the revelation of one’s heart.  So even though they both saw the materialistic things and status’ that they wanted; one had a vision to press towards, and the other just followed the pattern of the masses.

Vision is the key to moving from what was and what is, to taking us forward into what could be, and what has not ever been before. Vision sets you free from the limits of what the eyes can see and allows you to enter into the freedom of what the heart can feel. It is vision that makes what isn’t seen visible and possibilities out of the unknown.

Why have we neglected to develop a vision for our lives? Why are we waiting to take advantage of this powerful tool that can guide us in fulfilling our purpose in life? We have been indoctrinated since preschool to learn the basic essentials to become not only a competent citizen, but also a functioning employee. We went to school from around 8 in the mourning until 3 that day, from age 5 until 17,18 years-old. The number of hours that we spent in school equals approximately 14,000 hours total contributed from kinder-garden through 12th grade. We  learned and embodied the language of employee the entire time we were in school. Just to be involved in everybody else’s business, instead of minding our own!

What happened to the dreams we have, or once had for ourselves, that have yet to become a reality; the gifts and talents that we haven’t developed yet, that “something” we have always wanted to be or do but for some reason have not been able to accomplish? The tragic thing is that many people live their whole lives without ever recognizing their visions that will guide them to the fulfillment of those dreams once pondered.

Vision creates hope in the middle of discouragement and gives you endurance in the mist of troubles. Vision inspires the depressed and motivates those that are feeling down and out. Vision is the foundation for being courageous and the gas for the engine of persistence.

When a person has vision, they can tame a lion, climb Mt. Everest, become a multi-billionaire, and do what only a few have ever done or what has never been done before! The possibilities are limitless to a person who has conquered the key principle of establishing a vision for their life and follows it feverishly until the desired result is met!

The author Dr. Myles Munroe says,

For true visionaries, the imaginary world of their visions is more real to them than the concrete reality around them. In fact, a visionary’s vision is their reality.

The most powerful force in life is the force of vision. A young man did a college paper in his economics class on his vision for overnight mail. The professor took a red pen, gave him a “C,” and wrote, “Do not dream of things that cannot happen.” The young man left school and started Federal Express. I wonder where the professor is today. 

Your vision determines your destiny. When you can see what is possible and believe that it can come to pass, it makes you capable of doing the impossible.

I believe with all my heart that when you have no vision, you will simply relive the past with its disappointments and failures. Therefore, vision is the key to your future. Think about what happens to some football teams that are losing the game at halftime. The players go to the locker room and meet with the coach. The coach changes certain game strategies and gives them a pep talk, telling them what they can accomplish. When they come back out, their whole attitude and perspective seems to have changed, and they win the game.

No matter where you are in life, and regardless of how old or young you are, it can be “halftime” for you. You can reassess your life’s strategies and focus on fulfilling your purpose.

The book, The Principles and Power of Vision by Dr. Myles Munroe will help you to make the necessary changes in your life so you can know how to plan for the future and stop making the same mistakes and decisions that have held you back in the past.

Dr. Munroe says,

There are many who have no vision for their lives and wonder how to obtain one. There are others who have a vision, but are stuck in the mud of confusion not knowing what to do next. Then there are those who had vision but have abandoned it because of discouragement, disillusionment, some measure of failure, or frustration. If you are in one of these categories, The Principles and Power of Vision is designed to help you understand the nature of vision, define vision, capture or recapture a personal vision, simplify your vision, and document your vision.

This book will also help you understand the principles of vision and give you the basic tools and skills needed to bring your vision into reality. You were born to achieve something great, and you were destined to make a difference in your generation. Your life is not an experiment, but a project of providence to fulfill a purpose that your generation needs.

“I therefore encourage you to believe in your daydreams and to reconnect with your passion; your vision awaits your action. Your future is not ahead of you—it lies within you. See beyond your eyes and live for the unseen. Your vision determines your destiny.” –Dr. Myles Munroe

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: Personal Development for Smart People - Steve Pavl...

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: Personal Development for Smart People - Steve Pavl...: I got this article from  Personal Development for Smart People - Steve Pavlina  and this article is not be mentioned in his archives. so ...

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: Personal Development Phase II

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: Personal Development Phase II: Personal Development is the critical phase that is the cornerstone of the entire foundation to building the structure that will lead us t...

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: ARE WE TRULY FREE?

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: ARE WE TRULY FREE?: "WAKE UP!"   The alarm clock is buzzing freely in your ears obnoxiously letting you know that it is time to go to work. Another day of do...

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: ARE WE TRULY FREE?

SOFT SKILL BHILAI: ARE WE TRULY FREE?: "WAKE UP!"   The alarm clock is buzzing freely in your ears obnoxiously letting you know that it is time to go to work. Another day of do...

ARE WE TRULY FREE?

"WAKE UP!" The alarm clock is buzzing freely in your ears obnoxiously letting you know that it is time to go to work. Another day of doing a job (J.O.B. “Just-Over-Broke”) that you don’t really like, to get paid less than your true worth, of which the majority of the money is already spoken for, before it ever reaches your bank account, never to even touch your hands! How did we get here? Our parents, teachers, and society tells us to go to school, get a good job, and everything will be ok; but is this it?

Ok, ok, but first things first, what is a good job? In the times that we are in today, a lot of us are just happy to have any job, let alone a good one; and if one job isn’t enough to pay the bills, then maybe two or three will do. But, after this is accomplished, if we ever get a chance to breath for a second, we ask ourselves, “When did my job become more important than the time I spend with my loved ones, or taking care of my health?”

 I know, I know, our bills are to maintain our living, and our debts are from more luxury than necessity, but how and when did we rely on trading labor and precious time for meager wages, instead of leveraging ourselves, time and talents to work towardsprofits? If we are truly FREE, then why does it feel like we are slaves to our jobs and current circumstances?

What if we were to take the time to really establish a greater embrace of responsibility as well as discover the gifts & talents that we possess in order to create an environment to serve others with what we excel in? We would create and establish a life that allows for more time, (time to spend with loved ones, maintain our health, go on vacations, enjoy our hobbies, etc.) a sense of fulfillment and enjoyment each day as we do what we love and serve others with it, and an escape from living paycheck to paycheck enslaved to that which we currently are bound. Think FREEDOM!

Despite the laws and cultural status’ of the many nations that make up the world that we live in today, if we take a look at our present situation and mentality of ourselves and as a society, are we truly living in freedom? Before you answer this question in your mind, let us take a journey into freedom and the very nature of its mandate!

 Dr. Myles Munroe defines freedom as:

Free-dominion merged together equals Freedom. True Freedom is therefore “the liberty to dominate the earth through one’s unique gifts and talents in fulfillment of the intended purpose for one.” In essence, each individual was created to dominate the environment through his or her personal gifts and talents, in pursuit of fulfilling the purpose for his or her life and to serve others with that purpose. Freedom is the liberty to fulfill a life of serving others with the gift of that purpose, without restricting or controlling another while that person fulfills his or her purpose and serves you.

True freedom is self-discovery of one’s personal purpose and the liberty to pursue the fulfillment of that purpose according to the Kingdom laws and principles, without restricting others from doing the same. 

“When oppression becomes a mental condition, then physical freedom is not enough.”

It is this crucial principle that the book, “The Burden of Freedom” by Dr. Myles Munroe addresses:

The mind is the key to life. “As a man thinks in his heart [mind], so is he” – proverbs. Therefore, your mental state is more important than your physical state. You are not free until your mind is set free. Freedom is first a mental condition before it is a physical statement.

The source of freedom is not legislation or a key to a chain, but rather knowledge – the discovery of information powerful enough to set you free in your mind. If man is what he thinks, then a man is not free until he thinks free.

We must learn that freedom is not the absence of law, work or labor, but the embracing of responsibility. We must be awakened to the reality that true freedom imposes more laws than slavery [jobs], demands more work than slavery [jobs] and demands more self-control and discipline than slavery [jobs]. The foundation of true freedom is management—self-management and management of our environment. This is the first and ultimate purpose for mankind. In slavery you do not manage—you are managed. Therefore, freedom is a return to the responsibility of stewardship. The first command to mankind was to manage the real estate called Earth. Man was given the management contract to manage the earth, and his freedom is inherent in this dominion mandate. You are not free until you are able to dominate an area of earth with your gift.

Freedom is essential to all moral responsibility, and moral responsibility is one of the institutions of the human mind. However, freedom demands and could be defined as responsibility. There is no freedom without responsibility. Freedom is the delegated right and release of authority to be responsible for governing and managing your designated sphere of influence through your natural gift in fulfillment of the purpose for your life.

Freedom is taking responsibility for your life. It is designing your destiny and deciding your own consequences. True freedom is a matter of the mind—not of human law. Self control and self-discipline are both attributes of true freedom because discipline is self-imposed law. This is freedom.

So as we take inventory of our lives to see whether we are truly living in the freedom that is before us, let us study further the foundational principles of freedom itself. Afterwards we will have a great ascertainment of the steps we should take in the future towards establishing dominion in the area of our gifting and free ourselves from the bondage that enslaves our mind and our circumstances.

The excerpts of this article were taken from the must-read book: “The Burden of Freedom” by Dr. Myles Munroe, he is credited as the teacher of these awesome principles that breakdown freedom in its purest form!